Sex, Friendship, & Love Grown up Goodbye

This is my last note to all who read this blog… Three years in college has built me into a new woman. Senior year awaits me and I am full of expectations and sitings for the upcoming years in my life. Saint Peter’s College has brought me sorrow, happiness, opportunities, addictions, gains and losses.

Sex has turned into a completely definiton for me. Instead of the vile act of inserting a penis into my vagina, it has turned into love, hate, manipulation, and power. It has turned into my downfall and strength. Listen to me now, don’t ever let your pussy control your future! What have I learned? I finally had to accept that life is not a fairytale! I am not Carrie Bradshaw and I do not have a BIG! That special someone will not magically change one day and realize that I am “The one.” I guess that was my biggest mistake! Following my life the way I wish it was and not realizing the reality of my situation!

Friends are very important, but seriously are they all as loyal as we wish they were? Can you do more with your life with your friends or by standing and holding your own ground? Friends can sometimes be a mere distraction to what your life is meant to be. They can be undercover “agents” built just to test you and make you learn the lessons that you will use as material for adulthood!

Love can be a beautiful feeling! It can overpower everything you are feeling and make you survive the toughest battles! It can also bring you down so low that your heart and throat knots and makes you crazy. My biggest mistake and fortune has been falling in love. It has been my downfall, my happiest moments, my saddest moments and even my insane moments. It has kept me from my family, friends school and career! It is the only emotion that has kept me from everything I am sopposed to do!

So you see my friends, Sex, Friendship & Love make you grow up! Make you an adult and it defines who you are and who you will be! Learn well and goodluck to all of you because for you that are beginning each stage, it is a tough struggle ahead!

With Love,

Your author, Jakaris A. Diaz De Vasquez *

Worker’s Crush

In a work enviornment, everyone is supposed to remain neutral. Neutral meaning friendly at a professional level. Then all of a sudden you begin treating someone who seems nice. As time progresses you see a littl emore of each other and you develop butterflies everytime you see your co-worker.

Is it okay to flirt unconciously? Is it okay to talk about sexual factors just as an “interesting adult conversation?” What do you do when you have a worker’s crush?

The Disappointed One!

Relationships are about working things out, negotiating but most of all they are about making up at the end of the day and feeling fulfilled with the person you are with. There are bound to be a few fights between you and the person you spend the most time with.

But how do you know that its not that and just something that will never change. Should everyone believe in fairy tales and believe that their spouse will one day magically change after a week/month long lesson? Is that romance or blindness?

Baby can we please have sex tonight?

Relationships are about compromising, negotiating and communication. When you have a relationship that is all about negotiating and communication, but not about sex, what do you do? Sex is like the ultimate grain in a relationship, it is as important as being faithful, loving, caring and even being in love.

What is more important to maintain the relationship or to be happy in the relationship? Are people hiding what they feel about sex just to maintain the peace with their “soul mate?” Is it fair for spouses to get a negative answer to the sexy question: Baby can we have sex tonight?

Are we sluts?

Romance is a hopeful,yet forgetten subject in relationships these days. Getting to know a man or woman has become all about the sex. What happens when either gets butterflies and feelings start to come in? Either the woman becomes afraid or the man looses interest! What happened to going on a date and actually picturing a future with the other person?

 Maybe these people have soul mates in the other side of the world, maybe these people are heart broken, maybe these people just need a good sexual experience, or maybe romance is gone! Are we sluts because some of us believe faithfully in a sexual relationship and not in emotional ones? Are we sluts because we just don’t remember what romance is?!

BBFs Till The Weekend!

Real friends are hard to find. They are like a precious stone in the middle of the ocean that when found must be treasured and taken care of. Some people don’t know how to keep long lasting friendships. As hard as we may try to keep that friendship going it just needs two people to succeed and if that is not the case then it will go to faliure. True friendship is a powerful love.

This kind of love is sisterly or brotherly. It helps when needed, listens when has to, and has an urgent need to have at least some time to spend together. You can call it a relationship! Some people give up on their friends to be with men and as good as the friendship was, the friendship has broken up.

A true friend will always be there. Not always say the right things, but just to help with thei presence. In my opinion, the most important thing about friendship is to feel that you are not alone. Couples give each other support, however, there is nothing more comforting than crying on a friend’s shoulder, crying to a person that you have no secrets with.

Unfortunately, people don’t realize how important friendship is. They don’t understand that sometimes that empty space might be filled by a bff. People think that a few moments of convenience and then ride off to there regular life forgetting about their bff. People just remember a true friend will not forget when away, but miss you and keep up with you and your friendship.

Break up Town!

Getting over a broken heart is the first step in a woman’s life to test her dignity, self esteem and ability to solve her own problems. Knowing when to give up on a relationship and understanding that it went for the best are difficult lessons to learn. In the beginning there is denial and the potential urge to act like a psycho and go into the man’s voicemails, emails, internet sites etc. Then there is anger and we use our fingers to point at him or youself for blame. Then comes saddness. A saddness that with distractions can be covered, but when embraced can be the strongest emotion you have ever felt and this saddness if not controlled can be capable of destroying you completely.

A little later will come acceptance. Your inspiration to have a life comes back and you realize that everything that happened were only stops on a train that led to break up town. Break up town is a lonely but life changing town. A town were mistakes are realized, preferences are changed, and decisions about new habits are made.

In a world were everyone knows anyone and anyone knows everyone’s business. How do you avoid that man’s new news on girlfriends, where he’s going to be etc? How do you find a place to “not care?” How do you mend a broken heart for good?

New Year’s Forgiveness

As the new year has started we try to fulfill our latest resolutions and we commence by having a clear mindset. We think of finding true love and forgiveness and making life a little bit better with every new step we take. Forgiveness is such a delicate thing that it can’t be given in any moment and the words “I’m Sorry” seem to not mean as much as you would’ve wished they would. Giving forgiveness to someone who has broken your heart is probably the hardest obstacle a person may face. Forgiving and actually forgetting makes this obstacle almost impossible.

Why is love such a maze that we die over the person that hurts us the most while the person that was willing to give us the world is so insignificant? Are we crazy or do we want what we can’t have? Can we actually forgive and forget someone you love more than yourself? Can we actually forgive someone who has broken you down?

Merry Christmas to ME!

Christmas is the time of year to celebrate and rejoice. Men usually use this time of year to eat in their homes and women tend to ask for what ever they please. Have all the food, gifts and parties out-shined the real meaning of Christmas? Has everyone forgotten why it is that this holiday exists?

While men take this time to stuff their faces at homes and women take it to ask and they shall receive they arrive at bars or clubs on Christmas Eve and come out on Christmas morning having no special memories and no warm feelings about family or love. All they have to end up with is drunken actions with a few good words with the stranger next door.

Why have we men and women become so shallow? What has happen to our feeling of Christmas? When we were kids we loved not only the food and toys, but the feeling of family and playing with other cousins, but today, we have  these insignificant parties that we probably will not remember the next day due to the alcohol. What have we become? Are we avoiding the true meaning of Christmas or have we just forgotten it?

Are you my daddy?

It’s difficult to understand what’s really good for you. Life can be confusing and difficult and it can throw surprises at you that you might not be ready for you. Sometimes people can come into your lives and change you completly while others that are already in your life might wish you the worst.

Family is the hardest thing to let go of, but when they are just bringing you down on your destiny, you have to learn how to let go. It is tradition that males are closer to their mothers and that females are closer to their dads. Now my question is what happens when there is no father figure for the females and no mother figure for the males?

Is it true that they last their entire lives looking for that missing space making their love lives complicated and painful? How do you learn how to let go something that you feel you need and that is so natural to you? How do you know which person is the correct one for you, not because they fill that empty space of parenthood, but because they are your other half?